According to Beck, many couples therapy books tend to focus on lack of communication in the relationship rather than the problem of miscommunication. This book provides a thorough examination of perils such as “presumed mind reading,” anger, ambiguity, defensiveness, the evil “shoulds,” and the reduction of sex. The cognitive psychological approach is recommended here, with chapters devoted to the development of better conversational skills, setting rules, and showing respect for differing perspectives. With Beck’s sensible advice pointing the way, unhappy couples have the opportunity to stop seeing each other as annoying, boring, or insensitive and to start seeing each other for what they really are: beautiful, deeply complex individuals able to add an endless amount of romance, excitement, and comfort to each other’s lives.