According to studies conducted by the authors, even with the best of intentions, talking about your relationship often doesn’t bring couples together, and may eventually drive them apart. The reason for this is that underneath most couples’ fights, there is a biological difference at work;a woman’s vulnerability to fear and anxiety makes her draw closer, while a man’s subtle sensitivity to shame makes him pull away in response. This leads to the archetypal roles of nagging wife/stonewalling husband. Love and Stosny teach couples how to get closer in ways that don’t require œtrying to turn a man into a woman.  The book is rich with stories of couples who have turned their marriages around, and full of practical advice about the behaviors that make and break marriages. (BOOK)